Turning grief to grace

Katherine Ryder Published:

What do we do when our hearts are shattered?

This question has been ringing in my ears ever since Terri Roberts visited Berlin on Friday, April 13.

As most know, Roberts was the mother of Charles Carl Roberts IV, the man who shot 10 Amish school girls in Lancaster, Pa. six years ago.

When Roberts approached the podium in the Perry Reese Community Center of Hiland High School Friday evening, she asked the question, "What do we do when our hearts are shattered?"

Since then I've thought about the weight that

question holds.

We are all faced with obstacles, tragedies and disappointments. They're a fact of life that our elders have preached about for centuries, invoking a certain perspective to our daily struggles.

It's a question that challenges individuals to take control of their actions, their responses to the difficult moments in each of their lives.

Most of the time that is much easier said than done, especially since (it seems anyway) that how we react is more instinct than thought. Dexterity is rarely chosen over the effect of raw emotion.

Still, when Roberts confronted the crowd she wasn't asking for an answer to her own pain " her own grief. She has already transformed her grief to grace. She asked to send the message to her audience.

How should we respond?

We choose nearly every moment of our lives. Tragedy may fall unexpectedly, but we choose how to confront it.

It's our choices that enable our growth or our demise.

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